{"id":3704,"date":"2022-05-20T03:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-05-19T19:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/connect.muslimpro.com\/?p=3704"},"modified":"2023-02-28T12:28:45","modified_gmt":"2023-02-28T04:28:45","slug":"motherhood-the-job-that-never-pays","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/connect.muslimpro.com\/2022\/05\/motherhood-the-job-that-never-pays\/","title":{"rendered":"Motherhood: The Job That Never Pays"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ fullwidth=”on” admin_label=”Header” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_color=”#b7b9c7″ custom_padding=”0px|0|0px|0px|false|false” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][et_pb_fullwidth_header title=”Motherhood: The Job That Never Pays” subhead=”by Farida Haji” text_orientation=”center” background_overlay_color=”rgba(83,90,128,0.3)” _builder_version=”4.16.0″ title_font=”Noto Serif|700|||||||” title_text_align=”center” title_font_size=”70px” title_line_height=”1.1em” 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Once you hop on this train, there is no looking back. This isn’t a transactional job. It is not even a full-time job. It is way more than that. It is a role that pushes you forward. From strength to strength. Regardless of your situation or circumstances. Whether you have a team (partner, other support systems, et al) or you are a lone ranger.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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On one hand, where the parent, a mother<\/strong> is celebrated during May, we seldom realize that this title comes with immense self-sacrifices. They encompass our identity, being, and absolute change in our existence.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Not to forget the fathers, caregivers, and grandparents who have to take over willingly or unwillingly due to unique circumstances and fill the shoes of a mother.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Motherhood is not about a female taking care of her offspring or just procreating to increase the population. It is also all those loving grandparents, looking out selflessly for their children\u2019s children.<\/p>\n

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In health and sickness, in happiness and sadness, in life and even in death, parenting is the least appreciated designation.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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A mother\u2019s role according to a study<\/a> is equivalent to 2.5 full-time jobs. Not to mention the array and complexities of the multiple roles involved. Cook, nurse, helper, cleaner, driver, trainer, counselor, mediator, moderator, referee, buddy, storyteller, educator, and countless more.<\/p>\n

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Why celebrate a day in a month?<\/p>\n

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Why celebrate a month in a year?<\/p>\n

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Mother\u2019s day, father\u2019s day, and parent’s day should be appreciated every single day.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Abu Huraira reported that a person said: <\/em>
Allah\u2019s Messenger, who amongst the people is most deserving of my good treatment? He said: Your mother, again your mother, again your mother, then your father, then your nearest relatives according to the order (of nearness).<\/em><\/p>\n

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[Sahih Muslim 2548b]<\/p>\n

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Brene Brown writes in her book, Dare to Lead, \u201cIntegrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them. Today, I will choose courage over comfort.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

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Mothers choose courage over comfort every living day. They choose to pass on the values in action rather than talking about them. They make a conscious choice of creating a better person than themselves through their lifelong commitment to another human being. The child they care for and love selflessly.<\/p>\n

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To all the mothers, fathers, parents, and grandparents, we celebrate with you everyday.<\/p>\n

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