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Isn\u2019t it hard for everyone of us to forgive the ones who hurt us, betray us, the ones who break our hearts? We are often hurt by the people who are closest to us so it\u2019s natural for the wound to go deeper than the hurt you may endure through a stranger. Largely because you don\u2019t expect hurt to come from their direction.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.<\/span><\/p>\n Forgiveness is different from condoning (failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness), excusing (not holding the offender as responsible for the action),\u00a0forgetting (removing awareness of the offense from consciousness), pardoning (granted for an acknowledged offense by a representative of society, such as a judge), and reconciliation (restoration of a relationship).<\/p>\n Forgiveness is given to someone who does not deserve it. And you Choose to forgive instead of taking the revenge. You could take revenge but you chose to become a bigger person and let go\u2026<\/p>\n Forgiveness doesn\u2019t mean you shouldn\u2019t have any more feelings about the situation.\u00a0<\/p>\n Forgiveness doesn\u2019t mean there is nothing further to work out in the relationship or that everything is okay now. Resolution might still be needed.<\/p>\n Forgiveness doesn\u2019t mean you should forget the incident ever happened.<\/p>\n And sometimes, forgiveness doesn\u2019t mean you have to continue to include the person in your life\u2026<\/p>\n Forgiveness is basically for you. To help you move on\u2026<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_cta][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/connect.muslimpro.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/iStock-157914784.jpg” alt=”pray to Allah for forgiveness” title_text=”Pray” _builder_version=”4.16″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_cta button_url=”#TOP” _builder_version=”4.23.1″ header_font=”|700|||||||” header_font_size=”44px” header_line_height=”1.5em” body_font=”Noto Sans||||||||” body_font_size=”17px” use_background_color=”off” custom_button=”on” button_text_size=”17px” button_text_color=”#ffffff” button_bg_color=”#ff6b5a” button_border_width=”5px” button_border_color=”#ff6b5a” button_border_radius=”100px” button_font=”Noto Sans|700||on|||||” button_use_icon=”off” text_orientation=”left” background_layout=”light” module_alignment=”center” custom_margin=”11px|||||” hover_enabled=”0″ header_font_size_tablet=”” header_font_size_phone=”34px” header_font_size_last_edited=”on|phone” button_text_color_hover=”#ffffff” button_border_color_hover=”#ff9e59″ button_bg_color_hover=”#ff9e59″ global_colors_info=”{}” button_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_text_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_text_color__hover=”#ffffff” button_one_text_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_text_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_border_color__hover=”#ff9e59″ button_one_border_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_bg_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_bg_color__hover=”#ff9e59″ button_one_bg_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_bg_color__hover_enabled=”off” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n You could either let go of revenge but never forget, or you could forgive with such conviction that you forget it eventually as well after the time has healed your wounds.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n In Qur\u2019an, there are two phrases used for forgiveness, coming from root words:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n The meaning of the Arabic word \u201cghafara\u201d<\/em> is to cover, to hide and from it comes the meaning \u201cto excuse,\u201d \u201cto pardon,\u201d \u201cto remit\u201d and \u201cto forgive.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/p>\n “\u2026and let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you?\u2026 “<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n [Surah An-Nur 24:22]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Al-\u2018Afuw <\/em>is another part of forgiveness. This name is mentioned in the Quran five times. Literally the word \u2018Afw<\/em> means \u201cto release,\u201d \u201cto heal\u201d, as well as \u201cto restore, to remit.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u0671\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u064a\u064f\u0646\u0641\u0650\u0642\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e \u0641\u0650\u0649 \u0671\u0644\u0633\u064e\u0651\u0631\u064e\u0651\u0622\u0621\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0636\u064e\u0651\u0631\u064e\u0651\u0622\u0621\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0652\u0643\u064e\u0640\u0670\u0638\u0650\u0645\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0671\u0644\u0652\u063a\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0638\u064e \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0652\u0639\u064e\u0627\u0641\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0650 \u0671\u0644\u0646\u064e\u0651\u0627\u0633\u0650 \u06d7 \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u064f \u064a\u064f\u062d\u0650\u0628\u064f\u0651 \u0671\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064f\u062d\u0652\u0633\u0650\u0646\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Who spend during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people \u2013 and Allah loves the doers of good<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u200b\u200b[Surah Ali Imran 3:134]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n A grudge usually indicates a dramatic mismatch between our expectations of others and the reality; an acknowledgment that someone disappointed us deeply, and often, doesn\u2019t even realize it. When someone apologizes to us, we also feel validated and justified for being upset. The apologizer is taking responsibility at some level for the result of their actions, intended or not. And when that happens, our insides relax; we don\u2019t have to fight anymore to prove that our experience is valid, that we are entitled to our hurt, and that it matters. When hurt by another, our bodies are hardwired to need an apology to relax, move forward, and let go of the hurt.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n But sometimes when we can\u2019t get the I\u2019m sorry, we think we need, we have to learn to relax on our own, without the other\u2019s help. Trusting and knowing that our pain is deserving of kindness \u2014 because it is \u2014 and that our truth is justified and valid \u2014 because it\u2019s our truth \u2014 is the beginning of our independent healing process.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n If you decide you are willing to forgive (because your willingness to move on matters), try following these four steps to forgive even when it feels absolutely impossible that you\u2019d be able to move past all the hurt you endured:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Run a recap of that incident in your mind. Accept that it happened. In order to forgive, you need to acknowledge the reality of what occurred and how you were affected.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Acknowledge the growth you experienced as a result of what happened. What did it make you learn about yourself, or about your needs and boundaries? Not only did you survive the incident, perhaps you grew from it. Begin to picture your life without holding on to that anger and hurt. Would it feel lighter? Would you feel more content within? The health of your heart and mind should belong to you. If you give it in someone else\u2019s hand, what are your chances of peaceful survival?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n A grudge can form when an issue isn\u2019t fully confronted. Without being judgmental about yourself or another, clarify your feelings on the situation. Then, decide if this is something you will work on in your own heart or by contacting the other person involved. Only when you are ready, communicate with the other person about the issue. The path to freedom from a grudge is not so much through the forgiveness of the \u201cother\u201d (although this can be helpful), but rather through loving our own self or bringing in a loving presence of someone else into the suffering that crystallized into the grudge.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n If it feels like too much to go directly into the pain of a grudge, we can move toward it with the help of someone wise we trust. The idea is not to re-traumatize ourselves by diving into the original pain but rather to attend to it with the compassion that we didn\u2019t receive. Although our heart contains both our pain and the elixir for our pain. Sometimes the pain can be too difficult to deal with on our own and outside help may be needed.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n To say I\u2019m sorry is to say that I did something wrong.<\/em> For some people, admitting that they did something wrong is not possible, even when they know it was wrong, and even when they feel bad about doing it. This never-sorry person can actually be sorry and still refuse to utter the words that would both acknowledge their remorse and right their wrong. To be able to admit that we\u2019ve done something wrong requires a certain level of self-esteem or ego strength.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n People who are deeply insecure can find it challenging to say I\u2019m sorry in part because they think that a single mistake has the power to obliterate their self-worth. The idea that they could make a mistake and still be a valuable and good person is unthinkable for someone whose self-esteem is severely lacking. And then there are those who refuse to say I\u2019m sorry because they lack empathy. They believe that an apology is only appropriate for situations in which they purposefully caused you harm. There\u2019s no sorry deserved or indicated when the pain you felt was not intentionally caused, and thus not technically their fault.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n So think about the other person. Where is he or she coming from? He or she is flawed because all human beings are! When you were hurt, the other person was trying to have a need met. What do you think this need was and why did the person go about it in such a hurtful way?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Holding a grudge is like drinking poison yourself and hoping the other person gets affected by it. It feels like carrying a heavy burden of negativity & feelings of resentment. The problem with grudges, besides the fact that they are a drag to carry around, is that they don\u2019t serve the purpose that they are there to serve. They don\u2019t make us feel better or heal our hurt.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n At the end of the day, we end up as proud owners of our grudges but still without the experience of comfort that we ultimately crave, that we have craved since the original wounding. We turn our grudge into an object and hold it out at arm\u2019s length as proof of what we have suffered, a way to remind others and ourselves of our pain and deserving-ness.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n But in fact, our grudge is disconnected from our own heart; while born out of our pain, it becomes a construction of the mind, a story of what happened to us. Our grudge morphs into a boulder that blocks the light of kindness from reaching our heart, and thus is an obstacle to true healing. Sadly, in its effort to garner us empathy, our grudge ends up depriving us of the very empathy that we need to release it. So a change in perspective can really help straighten things for you in shaa Allah\u2026<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Here Is a big question. Ask yourself. Don\u2019t you want forgiveness from Allah? If we seek forgiveness from Allah (And we all need Allah\u2019s mercy), let us rush into forgiving people. We only give forgiveness that is finite and what Allah can give us is infinite. Allah\u2019s mercy is infinite. His forgiveness is infinite. SubhaanAllah. What a Beautiful Exchange! Either our anger weighs more or our love for forgiveness of Allah weighs more\u2026<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u062d\u064e\u062f\u064e\u0651\u062b\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0645\u064f\u062d\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0651\u062f\u064f \u0628\u0652\u0646\u064f \u0639\u064f\u0642\u0652\u0628\u064e\u0629\u064e\u060c \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e\u200f:\u200f \u062d\u064e\u062f\u064e\u0651\u062b\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0645\u064f\u062d\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0651\u062f\u064f \u0628\u0652\u0646\u064f \u0639\u064f\u062b\u0652\u0645\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0642\u064f\u0631\u064e\u0634\u0650\u064a\u064f\u0651\u060c \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e\u200f:\u200f \u062d\u064e\u062f\u064e\u0651\u062b\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u062d\u064e\u0631\u0650\u064a\u0632\u064c\u060c \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e\u200f:\u200f \u062d\u064e\u062f\u064e\u0651\u062b\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u062d\u0650\u0628\u064e\u0651\u0627\u0646\u064f \u0628\u0652\u0646\u064f \u0632\u064e\u064a\u0652\u062f\u064d \u0627\u0644\u0634\u064e\u0651\u0631\u0652\u0639\u064e\u0628\u0650\u064a\u064f\u0651\u060c \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u0639\u064e\u0628\u0652\u062f\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u0650 \u0628\u0652\u0646\u0650 \u0639\u064e\u0645\u0652\u0631\u0650\u0648 \u0628\u0652\u0646\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0639\u064e\u0627\u0635\u0650\u060c \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0646\u064e\u0651\u0628\u0650\u064a\u0650\u0651 \u0635\u0644\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0644\u064a\u0647 \u0648\u0633\u0644\u0645 \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e\u200f:\u200f \u0627\u0631\u0652\u062d\u064e\u0645\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u062a\u064f\u0631\u0652\u062d\u064e\u0645\u064f\u0648\u0627\u060c \u0648\u064e\u0627\u063a\u0652\u0641\u0650\u0631\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u064a\u064e\u063a\u0652\u0641\u0650\u0631\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u064f \u0644\u064e\u0643\u064f\u0645\u0652\u060c \u0648\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0644\u064c \u0644\u0623\u064e\u0642\u0652\u0645\u064e\u0627\u0639\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0642\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0644\u0650\u060c \u0648\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0644\u064c \u0644\u0650\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064f\u0635\u0650\u0631\u0650\u0651\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0627\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u064a\u064f\u0635\u0650\u0631\u064f\u0651\u0648\u0646\u064e \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0649 \u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0641\u064e\u0639\u064e\u0644\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0648\u064e\u0647\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u064a\u064e\u0639\u0652\u0644\u064e\u0645\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e\u200f.\u200f<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Abdullah ibn al-‘As reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Show mercy and you will be shown mercy. Forgive and Allah will forgive you. Woe to the vessels that catch words (i.e. the ears). Woe to those who persist and consciously continue in what they are doing.”<\/em><\/p>\n [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 380]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n The incident of slander against Aisha is one of the example of this fact. When the Mother of Believers was accused and there were rumors spreading about her in the city \u2013 one of the Sahaba who was Abu Bakr\u2019s relative (Mistah Bin Uthatha) who Abu Bakr was also supporting financially, got indulged in spreading the false propaganda created by Munafiqeen. When Aisha\u2019s father \u2013 Abu Bakr came to know about that, he swore that he wouldn\u2019t help him anymore. Upon this, Surah An-Nur, Verse 22<\/em> was revealed.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u0648\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0627 \u064a\u064e\u0623\u0652\u062a\u064e\u0644\u0650 \u0623\u064f\u0648\u06df\u0644\u064f\u0648\u0627\u06df \u0671\u0644\u0652\u0641\u064e\u0636\u0652\u0644\u0650 \u0645\u0650\u0646\u0643\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0633\u064e\u0651\u0639\u064e\u0629\u0650 \u0623\u064e\u0646 \u064a\u064f\u0624\u0652\u062a\u064f\u0648\u0653\u0627\u06df \u0623\u064f\u0648\u06df\u0644\u0650\u0649 \u0671\u0644\u0652\u0642\u064f\u0631\u0652\u0628\u064e\u0649\u0670 \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064e\u0633\u064e\u0640\u0670\u0643\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064f\u0647\u064e\u0640\u0670\u062c\u0650\u0631\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0641\u0650\u0649 \u0633\u064e\u0628\u0650\u064a\u0644\u0650 \u0671\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u0650 \u06d6 \u0648\u064e\u0644\u0652\u064a\u064e\u0639\u0652\u0641\u064f\u0648\u0627\u06df \u0648\u064e\u0644\u0652\u064a\u064e\u0635\u0652\u0641\u064e\u062d\u064f\u0648\u0653\u0627\u06df \u06d7 \u0623\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0627 \u062a\u064f\u062d\u0650\u0628\u064f\u0651\u0648\u0646\u064e \u0623\u064e\u0646 \u064a\u064e\u063a\u0652\u0641\u0650\u0631\u064e \u0671\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u064f \u0644\u064e\u0643\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u06d7 \u0648\u064e\u0671\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u064f \u063a\u064e\u0641\u064f\u0648\u0631\u064c \u0631\u064e\u0651\u062d\u0650\u064a\u0645\u064c<\/p>\n <\/p>\n And let not those of virtue among you and wealth swear not to give [aid] to their relatives and the needy and the emigrants for the cause of Allah, and let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n After this, Abu Bakr resumed helping Mistah.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n I know it\u2019s easier said than done. Qalbin Saleem means a sound heart. A heart free of burdens of dunya. Our hearts are made for Allah. They aren\u2019t meant to hold so much hurt of this dunya. So daily cleansing can be an uplifting experience.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u0623\u064e\u0628\u0650\u064a \u0647\u064f\u0631\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0631\u064e\u0629\u064e \u0631\u064e\u0636\u0650\u064a\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0647\u064f \u060c\u0623\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0651 \u0631\u064e\u0633\u064f\u0648\u0644\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u0650 \u0635\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0633\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0645\u064e \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: ” \u062a\u064f\u0641\u0652\u062a\u064e\u062d\u064f \u0623\u064e\u0628\u0652\u0648\u064e\u0627\u0628\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0652\u062c\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0651\u0629\u0650 \u064a\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0645\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0650\u0627\u062b\u0652\u0646\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u0650\u060c \u0648\u064e\u064a\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0645\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0652\u062e\u064e\u0645\u0650\u064a\u0633\u0650\u060c \u0641\u064e\u064a\u064f\u063a\u0652\u0641\u064e\u0631\u064f \u0644\u0650\u0643\u064f\u0644\u0650\u0651 \u0639\u064e\u0628\u00a0 \u064a\u064f\u0634\u0652\u0631\u0650\u0643\u064f \u0628\u0650\u0627\u0644\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u0650 \u0634\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0626\u064b\u0627\u060c \u0625\u0650\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0627 \u0631\u064e\u062c\u064f\u0644\u064b\u0627 \u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e\u062a\u0652 \u0628\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0648\u064e\u0628\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u064e \u0623\u064e\u062e\u0650\u064a\u0647\u0650 \u0634\u064e\u062d\u0652\u0646\u064e\u0627\u0621\u064f\u060c \u0641\u064e\u064a\u064f\u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064f: (1) \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0638\u0650\u0631\u064f\u0648\u0627 (2) \u0647\u064e\u0630\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u0650 \u062d\u064e\u062a\u064e\u0651\u0649 \u064a\u064e\u0635\u0652\u0637\u064e\u0644\u0650\u062d\u064e\u0627\u060c \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0638\u0650\u0631\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0647\u064e\u0630\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u0650 \u062d\u064e\u062a\u064e\u0651\u0649 \u064a\u064e\u0635\u0652\u0637\u064e\u0644\u0650\u062d\u064e\u0627\u060c \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0638\u0650\u0631\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0647\u064e\u0630\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u0650 \u062d\u064e\u062a\u064e\u0651\u0649 \u064a\u064e\u0635\u0652\u0637\u064e\u0644\u0650\u062d\u064e\u0627”<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u0631\u0648\u0627\u0647 \u0645\u0633\u0644\u0645 (\u0648\u0643\u0630\u0644\u0643 \u0645\u0627\u0644\u0643 \u0648\u0623\u0628\u0648 \u062f\u0627\u0648\u062f)<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Messenger of Allah \ufdfa said: The gates of Paradise will be opened on Mondays and on Thursdays, and every servant who associates nothing with Allah will be forgiven, except for the man who has a grudge against his brother. it will be said: Delay these two until they are reconciled; delay these two until they are reconciled. It was related by Muslim (also by Malik and Abu Dawud).<\/em><\/p>\n [Hadith 20, 40 Hadith Qudsi]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_cta][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/connect.muslimpro.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/iStock-1179759748-scaled.jpg” alt=”women hugging each other” title_text=”Portrait of young Asian muslim women in happy smile with hijab or head scarf hugs each other indoors” _builder_version=”4.16″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_cta button_url=”#TOP” _builder_version=”4.23.1″ header_font=”|700|||||||” header_font_size=”44px” header_line_height=”1.5em” body_font=”Noto Sans||||||||” body_font_size=”17px” use_background_color=”off” custom_button=”on” button_text_size=”17px” button_text_color=”#ffffff” button_bg_color=”#ff6b5a” button_border_width=”5px” button_border_color=”#ff6b5a” button_border_radius=”100px” button_font=”Noto Sans|700||on|||||” button_use_icon=”off” text_orientation=”left” background_layout=”light” module_alignment=”center” custom_margin=”11px|||||” hover_enabled=”0″ header_font_size_tablet=”” header_font_size_phone=”34px” header_font_size_last_edited=”on|phone” button_text_color_hover=”#ffffff” button_border_color_hover=”#ff9e59″ button_bg_color_hover=”#ff9e59″ global_colors_info=”{}” button_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_text_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_text_color__hover=”#ffffff” button_one_text_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_text_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_border_color__hover=”#ff9e59″ button_one_border_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_bg_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_bg_color__hover=”#ff9e59″ button_one_bg_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_bg_color__hover_enabled=”off” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n We see forgiveness in the character of Prophet Muhammad \ufdfa and in each prophet who went before him. From Yusuf (AS) forgiving his brothers after living a life of slavery and imprisonment when his brothers threw him into the well \u2013 to Prophet \ufdfa forgiving the murderers of his beloved uncle and supporter. From Ibrahim (AS) forgiving his father who was one of the people to throw him into fire \u2013 to Prophet \ufdfa making dua for the people of Taif who pelted him with rocks until he bled\u2026<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u0648\u0639\u0646 \u0623\u0646\u0633 \u0631\u0636\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0646\u0647 \u0623\u0646 \u0627\u0644\u0646\u0628\u064a \u0635\u0644\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0644\u064a\u0647 \u0648\u0633\u0644\u0645 \u0642\u0627\u0644\u200f:\u200f \u200f “\u200f\u0644\u0627 \u062a\u0628\u0627\u063a\u0636\u0648\u0627\u060c \u0648\u0644\u0627 \u062a\u062d\u0627\u0633\u062f\u0648\u0627 \u0648\u0644\u0627 \u062a\u062f\u0627\u0628\u0631\u0648\u0627\u060c \u0648\u0644\u0627 \u062a\u0642\u0627\u0637\u0639\u0648\u0627\u060c \u0648\u0643\u0648\u0646\u0648\u0627 \u0639\u0628\u0627\u062f \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0625\u062e\u0648\u0627\u0646\u064b\u0627\u060c \u0648\u0644\u0627 \u064a\u062d\u0644 \u0644\u0645\u0633\u0644\u0645 \u0623\u0646 \u064a\u0647\u062c\u0631 \u0623\u062e\u0627\u0647 \u0641\u0648\u0642 \u062b\u0644\u0627\u062b\u200f”\u200f \u200f(\u200f\u200f(\u200f\u0645\u062a\u0641\u0642 \u0639\u0644\u064a\u0647\u200f)\u200f\u200f)\u200f\u200f.\u200f<\/p>\n <\/p>\n The Prophet \ufdfa said, \u201cDo not harbor grudge against one another, nor jealousy, nor enmity; and do not show your backs to one another; and become as fellow brothers and slaves of Allah. It is not lawful for a Muslim to avoid speaking with his brother beyond three days.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n [Bukhari and Muslim, Riyad as-Salihin 1567]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Let\u2019s not get caught up in the illusion of pain given by the people that you fail to see the bigger picture. By forgiving, you are accepting the reality of what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it. This can be a gradual process and for some, a journey of a lifetime. This life is a test. Allah is going to test us through other people too.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u0648\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0622 \u0623\u064e\u0631\u0652\u0633\u064e\u0644\u0652\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0642\u064e\u0628\u0652\u0644\u064e\u0643\u064e \u0645\u0650\u0646\u064e \u0671\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064f\u0631\u0652\u0633\u064e\u0644\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0625\u0650\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0622 \u0625\u0650\u0646\u064e\u0651\u0647\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u0644\u064e\u064a\u064e\u0623\u0652\u0643\u064f\u0644\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e \u0671\u0644\u0637\u064e\u0651\u0639\u064e\u0627\u0645\u064e \u0648\u064e\u064a\u064e\u0645\u0652\u0634\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e \u0641\u0650\u0649 \u0671\u0644\u0652\u0623\u064e\u0633\u0652\u0648\u064e\u0627\u0642\u0650 \u06d7 \u0648\u064e\u062c\u064e\u0639\u064e\u0644\u0652\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0628\u064e\u0639\u0652\u0636\u064e\u0643\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u0644\u0650\u0628\u064e\u0639\u0652\u0636\u064d \u0641\u0650\u062a\u0652\u0646\u064e\u0629\u064b \u0623\u064e\u062a\u064e\u0635\u0652\u0628\u0650\u0631\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e \u06d7 \u0648\u064e\u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u0631\u064e\u0628\u064f\u0651\u0643\u064e \u0628\u064e\u0635\u0650\u064a\u0631\u064b\u0627<\/p>\n <\/p>\nForms of Forgiveness<\/strong><\/h2>\n
1) \u063a \u0641 \u0631<\/strong><\/h4>\n
2) \u0639 \u0641 \u0648<\/strong><\/h4>\n
Steps to Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n
From a Psychological Perspective\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n
1) Recap<\/strong><\/h4>\n
2) Acknowledge<\/strong><\/h4>\n
3) Share Your Feelings<\/strong><\/h4>\n
4) See the Other Side of The Coin<\/strong><\/h4>\n
From an Islamic Perspective<\/strong><\/h3>\n
1) Forgive People to Gain Allah\u2019s Forgiveness:\u00a0<\/strong><\/h4>\n
2) Qalbin Saleem Leads to Jannah<\/strong><\/h4>\n
3) Follow the Sunnah<\/strong><\/h4>\n
4) Consider Life A Constant Test<\/strong><\/h4>\n