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This is a really lovely way of asking the real question, \u201cHow do I get my child to do as I say?\u201d and this has been the age-old dilemma of parenting forever!<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n In order to answer this question there are a few things we need to consider which requires shifting the lens a little:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Everyone has a unique and subjective view of the world, including our children. When we see this we can begin to see our children\u2019s innate resilience and well-being and we can start to parent from a place where love and connection can flourish.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Seeing beyond the myths and the made-up stories about ourselves and our children in our ego-based thoughts means we no longer need to fix, change or improve either them or ourselves in order to feel ok and be happy\u2026we are perfect as we are.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Our children are a gift from Allah to look after, given to us at a prescribed time. We are the means by which they came into the world but Allah designed them.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n As the parent, we are responsible to guide our child, which in turn requires guiding our self. We are responsible to guide our children but this does not guarantee what the outcome will be.\u00a0Only Allah is in control<\/a><\/strong>. Our efforts to guide our child is like us tying our camel, we are doing our bit, fulfilling our purpose but we have no control over how Allah will then guide our child or not.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Knowing that Allah is in control, not you, relieves you of the pressure and burden of responsibility and ultimately sets you free. This directs the focus of your love and effort from your child back to yourself, so that you empower your child through sincerely being your authentic self. The blessings in this is that both you and your child grow together, toward harmony and peace.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_cta][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/connect.muslimpro.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Mom-and-Kid.jpeg” title_text=”Happy Muslim Mom And Daughter Giving High-Five To Each Other In Kitchen” _builder_version=”4.14.1″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_cta button_url=”#TOP” _builder_version=”4.14.1″ header_font=”|700|||||||” header_font_size=”44px” header_line_height=”1.5em” body_font=”Noto Sans||||||||” body_font_size=”17px” use_background_color=”off” custom_button=”on” button_text_size=”17px” button_text_color=”#ffffff” button_bg_color=”#ff6b5a” button_border_width=”5px” button_border_color=”#ff6b5a” button_border_radius=”100px” button_font=”Noto Sans|700||on|||||” button_use_icon=”off” text_orientation=”left” background_layout=”light” max_width=”700px” module_alignment=”center” custom_margin=”11px|||||” hover_enabled=”0″ header_font_size_tablet=”” header_font_size_phone=”34px” header_font_size_last_edited=”on|phone” button_text_color_hover=”#ffffff” button_border_color_hover=”#ff9e59″ button_bg_color_hover=”#ff9e59″ global_colors_info=”{}” button_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_text_size__hover_enabled=”off” button_text_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_text_color__hover=”#ffffff” button_one_text_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_text_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_width__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_border_color__hover=”#ff9e59″ button_one_border_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_border_radius__hover_enabled=”off” button_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_one_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_letter_spacing__hover_enabled=”off” button_bg_color__hover_enabled=”on” button_bg_color__hover=”#ff9e59″ button_one_bg_color__hover_enabled=”off” button_two_bg_color__hover_enabled=”off” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n You have to love yourself before you can love your child. You cannot be whole, true, present, healthy when you have nothing to give. How can you be anything to your child, how can you hope to parent them, to do what you think is best by them if you are empty?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n1. Respect their viewpoint<\/h2>\n
2. We are NOT in control<\/h2>\n
3. Self-care is critical<\/h2>\n